So what really happens after childbirth?
1) After giving birth, you will still LOOK FAT!!!
In those last few weeks of pregnancy, I was bursting out of my clothes like a morbidly obese penguin and two weeks after giving birth, I was in this purgatory where my pregnancy clothes don't really fit me and I cannot zip up my pre-pregnancy clothes yet. In fact the first two weeks after giving birth, I only lost 6kg which I think consisted of Baby Raedon who weighed 2950grams at birth, extra fluid and blood. Two weeks after giving birth, I still looked pregnant and fat.
2) After giving birth, your body might feel like a seperate entity of its own.
My little Raedon loves to drink milk and I enjoy feeding him very much. However, most days I feel like a lactating cow as my boobs have taken on an identity of their own. They still belong to me, but most times, I feel that they have taken on an entirely seperate identity also known as the milk machine.
So far, I have always expressed my breast milk using a Medela Swing pump and fed Baby Raedon through a bottle. I record his every feed since birth so that I can match it with his growth and weight gain.
3) After giving birth, your c-section scar might still feel numb two months post operation.
My gynae told me that the c-section scar will still be numb six months after the surgery, and for some people it may sometimes feel itchy. So far, my c-section scar has healed nicely and there is no itch. I am deciding whether I want to have it lasered or leave it as it’s now my badge of honor.
4) After giving birth, you might experience temporary postpartum depression.
Throughout my pregnancy, I have been very calm and happy. I did not experience much mood swings during pregnancy. However, after giving birth, due to a hormonal dip, one can experience some level of temporary postpartum depression or anxiety. For me, I missed my dogs in singapore so much, every time I see their photos I start to tear very badly.
If you are unable to cope with your anxiety or depression after giving birth, it is best to talk to your gynae about it. You are not alone. It is understandable for you to become depressed, as you might feel overwhelmed by a new baby, plus you most probably are sleep deprived and learning to handle a new baby is a steep learning curve.
At times, when Raedon is crying and I do not know what he wants I just start to sing to him and he would calm down. Try rocking your baby or belting out a tune when your baby cries for no reason. Or if you are too overwhelmed by your baby, get someone like your mother or mother-in-law to help carry the baby till you yourself have calmed down. For me, in europe I have ABSOLUTELY no help to care for Raedon, so when I am overwhelmed, I would hand Raedon to my husband who usually does a better job of calming him down. Maybe Raedon just likes the smell of his daddy. lolololol.....